Super Mom!

It’s hard to resist the urge to be a “Supermom” sometimes. As mothers, we want to be everything for our kids, because they are everything for us. This becomes more difficult when you are a working mom. There are many positive aspects of having a career as a mom, like the healthcare options and of course the income. But it can be incredibly difficult and hard to cope with at times.

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I think each one of us, at least at some point in time, has dreamed about being a stay-at-home mom, and spending each moment of each day watching our kids laugh, admiring their smile, sharing moments and memories, and being there to comfort them when they cry. But for those of us who are playing the juggling game of a career AND a family, things become slightly more complicated.

My own personal rule for being a working mom: I am doing this FOR them. This is my mantra that I have to tell myself over and over when I am at my office wondering what my kids are up to. I am working hard to set an example for them, and show them that it is important to do things for yourself and for the ones you love the most. I tell my kids all the time, as I’m sure you all do as well, that they can do anything they set their minds to. I just have a harder time believing this as it relates to me and my career. But take a deep breath, Moms. You really CAN do anything you set your mind to.

Another idea to keep in mind: quality vs. quantity. Let me explain. I work 40 hours a week, 8:00am to 5:00pm. I am able to spend the evenings and weekends with my kids, along with vacation when I’m able to fit that in. So I am a big advocate for quality vs. quantity time when it comes to my kids. I may not be able to spend the amount of time I would like to at home, but I make sure that I am fully present when I am able to be with them. This means turning off my phone, avoiding distractions, and just enjoying the time I am able to spend with them. This makes everything even more special and creates more memories with them.

A big bottom line for those of us who are always trying to perfect the work-life balance: compromises will need to be made – and that is okay. Schedules can be so tricky, between school functions, games, concerts, and even dinner and bath times in the evenings. It will take some time for you and your family to figure out what works best for you. When you do, the flow of life is much simpler. Each family and each situation is different. Don’t try to compare yourselves to others, or let anyone else try to tell you how you should be doing things. You have to do what is best for YOU and for YOUR family.

You are setting a powerful example for your children. Never forget that. And make sure you take that time to silence your phone, put away the distractions, and have that much-needed quality time with your family.

Sailing With Your Kids Is A Priceless Experience

So if you’re anything like me, you want your children to experience many new things with you. For me, they are usually items on my list of things to do before I go to heaven. One experience that was absolutely priceless was sailing on the schooner, Aquidneck.

We sailed through Newport Harbor which is so beautiful. The sailing was first class and we were able to help raise the sails, be part of the sailing or just relax. We were out on the water for nearly 2 hours. The harbor and bay are known to be two of the most beautiful bodies of water in the world and are said to provide some of the best sailing conditions in the United States.

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Parenting Tips – When Your Kids are on Vacation and You’re Not

Would you like parenting tips when your kids are on vacation and you’re not?  Inside you’ll find some fun ideas to bond with your kids and build character too.A few days ago I received a phone call from a child I didn’t know. “Mom, can I go out and play?”  The child sounded about 8 or 9. “You have the wrong number.” I answered.

That call made me think of all the moms who work outside the home.  Having been a working mom, vacations were always a concern to me.  Was the teenage babysitter who was watching my boys playing with them or watching TV?

I had to fire one because that’s just what he did.  Another babysitter left a pot of burning beans on the stove.  On the days I was free, I had so much work to do at home.  “What’s a mother to do,” I wondered?

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A Day On The Ice

Since I was a child, I have always been a fan of the Olympics!  Each time I saw an American athlete on the podium receiving a medal I dreamed of a time when that could be me.  My dream never came true, but I did have some amazing experiences as a college athlete.  I never thought about how young I was when it all began, but with all the Olympic hype on TV, I have discovered how young these dreams can begin.

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5 Time-Killing Habits all Moms Want to Avoid

by Heather Reider
1. Skipping breakfast. You wouldn’t send your kids off to school with an empty tank. Why would you start your day without any energy? We know you’re on the run trying to get everyone out the door in the morning but smoothies, protein bars, yogurt, fruit, a whole-grain waffle all are easy options and will keep you going.

2. Thinking you have no time. If you think it, you’re right. If you keep telling yourself you don’t have enough time in the day you’ll never have it. Change the way you talk to yourself about time and you’ll find time will start working in your favor.

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10 Things I’d Love to Tell My Younger Self

I’ve learned some valuable things about life, love, and being female over the past half-century. Here is the advice I try to pass on to younger women in my life (family and friends) in the hope that it will save them some precious time:

1. You are at least 10 times prettier than you think you are.
That holds true no matter how pretty you already think you are! Don’t believe me? Ask your mother, auntie or grannie if she thought she was pretty when she was 20. She’ll say no. Then find a photo of her at that age. See what I mean?

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