Parenting Tips – When Your Kids are on Vacation and You’re Not

Would you like parenting tips when your kids are on vacation and you’re not?  Inside you’ll find some fun ideas to bond with your kids and build character too. A few days ago I received a phone call from a child I didn’t know. “Mom, can I go out and play?”  The child sounded about 8 or 9. “You have the wrong number.” I answered.

That call made me think of all the moms who work outside the home.  Having been a working mom, vacations were always a concern to me.  Was the teenage babysitter who was watching my boys playing with them or watching TV?

I had to fire one because that’s just what he did.  Another babysitter left a pot of burning beans on the stove.  On the days I was free, I had so much work to do at home.  “What’s a mother to do,” I wondered?

5 Parenting Tips When Your Children Are on Vacation and You’re Not

I know you know you know these things:

Your kids are a gift.
They need your time and your love.
You are very busy.

Sometimes it’s hard to think of fun things to do with kids when your mind is distracted with work, bills, and chores.  Here are some easy things to do that will strengthen your bond, use your kid-time well, and have fun with them too.

  • Exercise together.
    Play outdoor games.  Baseball, hide ‘n seek, catch, jump rope, and tag are easy to do, create excitement, and cause laughter.
  • Fix an easy lunch or dinner.
    Call it a picnic, spread a blanket, and eat it outside together. Being in nature
    on a sunny day with someone you love creates warm feelings, simple conversation, and wonderful memories.
  • Put on your swim suits and play water balloons together.
    Enjoy running, getting wet, and the feelings of excitement and joy.
  • Go on a nature walk.
    Find little animal holes, collect unusual rocks or leaves, climb trees with sturdy branches.  Sit and listen. Feel the sense of peace that only nature can offer.
  • Don’t spend money. Do spend time.
    You can’t recover missed fun from the past. Pick berries for dessert. You
    can create fun times today.

Parenting Tips Conclusion 

Fun times build character.  Fun times bond your children more deeply with you and your values.  Fun times build the beautiful memories of tomorrow.  Don’t let your child say, “Mom never has time for me.  She’s always too busy.”  You can find the time. I know you can.

by: Jean Tracy, MSS

Sailing With Your Kids Is A Priceless Experience

So if you’re anything like me, you want your children to experience many new things with you. For me, they are usually items on my list of things to do before I go to heaven. One experience that was absolutely priceless was sailing on the schooner, Aquidneck.

We sailed through Newport Harbor which is so beautiful. The sailing was first class and we were able to help raise the sails, be part of the sailing or just relax. We were out on the water for nearly 2 hours. The harbor and bay are known to be two of the most beautiful bodies of water in the world and are said to provide some of the best sailing conditions in the United States.

During the cruise, we saw spectacular estates, and a jaw-dropping rocky shoreline. The colonial town sets as a backdrop and is just stunning also.

There was also a lot of history being told. You’ll learned about the Navy and the missiles used in WWII.  You’ll see JFKs summer home, lighthouses, famous yachts and maybe see some sailing races. There is also Fort Adams which is one of the largest forts on the East Coast.  The crew was so knowledgeable, we all learned so much.

The Aquidnceck schooner named after the island, is about 80 feet long and  a very smooth ride. None of us got seasick which was a total relief. There are comfortable benches and plenty of places for everyone to relax.  We didn’t feel cramped at all. My recommendation is to sail this schooner in Newport! It’s so much fun for everyone of all ages and is truly an amazing experience to share with you children!

Written by: Stephanie

5 Time-Killing Habits all Moms Want to Avoid

miami limo service1. Skipping breakfast. You wouldn’t send your kids off to school with an empty tank. Why would you start your day without any energy? We know you’re on the run trying to get everyone out the door in the morning but smoothies, protein bars, yogurt, fruit, a whole-grain waffle all are easy options and will keep you going.

2. Thinking you have no time. If you think it, you’re right. If you keep telling yourself you don’t have enough time in the day you’ll never have it. Change the way you talk to yourself about time and you’ll find time will start working in your favor.

3. Surfing the Internet. If you work at the computer or find yourself at the computer for hours in a day, be sure to take a break every 10 to 15 minutes. A little break will help break that online trance.

4. Starting the day without a plan. Write down your daily goals the night before. Waking up with a clear idea of what needs to happen in the day will help you get more accomplished.

5. Grocery shopping and running errands without a list. Writing lists and keeping them with you will help you save time and money

by Heather Reider

10 Things I’d Love To Tell My Younger Self

I’ve learned some valuable things about life, love, and being female over the past half-century. Here is the advice I try to pass on to younger women in my life (family and friends) in the hope that it will save them some precious time:

1. You are at least 10 times prettier than you think you are.
That holds true no matter how pretty you already think you are! Don’t believe me? Ask your mother, auntie or grannie if she thought she was pretty when she was 20. She’ll say no. Then find a photo of her at that age. See what I mean?

2. The only thing you should be faking is confidence.
If you don’t have it yet, pretend you do. In every new situation, pretend you’re not nervous, pretend you’re not afraid. After a few times doing this, the pretend part disappears.

3. Want to try something new like painting, skiing, running your own business? Go to the library and borrow 10 different books on the subject.
Skim through them all, find the ones that have the most vital information and study them. Then see number two.

4. No matter how old you get, remember what it was like to be a nine-year old girl.
Remember the feeling of freedom. If you’ve already forgotten, do a cartwheel. You can so still do one. Savor that feeling. Wake up with it every day. You’ll stay young until the day you die.

5. In the same vein, flowers — freshly cut or potted — are never a waste of money.
Because every time we glance at them, they remind us how much beauty there can be in the world.

6. Speaking of money, starting right this moment, whether you’re 20 or 60, you can change your finances around.
Don’t leave someone else completely in charge, whether it’s your husband, partner, parents, or banker. Become financially savvy. Financial independence gives you the freedom to walk away from many bad situations. How do you know you’re in bad situation? See number seven.

7. If your stomach hurts and you haven’t got a virus, you’re in a bad situation.
Before you know what it is, your stomach always does. Give yourself some time to ponder what it might be that’s making your stomach hurt. Chances are you already do know, you just don’t want to believe it, for some reason. You can ignore advice from your friends, even your own brain, but you can’t ignore your stomach, because the stomach never lies. Oh, and by the way—drowning your stomach in alcohol won’t make it stop telling you the truth, either.

8. When meeting someone new and he or she seems to be behaving like a jerk, show compassion first.
If after you display your sincere compassion they are still acting like a jerk, walk away. If they follow you, call the police.

9. Wear sunscreen on your face, neck, and hands every day — winter and summer.
I don’t care how dark your skin is naturally. Wear it. You’ll remember me when you look in the mirror at age 50. Always keep in mind that your body is directly connected to your spirit. Look after your body. Exercise, floss and brush your teeth. Put nothing in your body that can permanently harm your spirit, including the wrong man.

10. And if you are in bed with a man, and he’s the right man:
… meaning your stomach doesn’t hurt, he’s smiling at you, he knows your name, he’s not drunk, and neither are you—for godsakes—enjoy yourself. He is not at all thinking about how fat your thighs look.

By Patricia Volonakis Davis of Harlots’ Sauce
Originally published on VibrantNation

Super Mom

It’s hard to resist the urge to be a “Supermom” sometimes. As mothers, we want to be everything for our kids, because they are everything for us. This becomes more difficult when you are a working mom. There are many positive aspects of having a career as a mom, like the healthcare options and of course the income. But it can be incredibly difficult and hard to cope with at times.

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I think each one of us, at least at some point in time, has dreamed about being a stay-at-home mom, and spending each moment of each day watching our kids laugh, admiring their smile, sharing moments and memories, and being there to comfort them when they cry. But for those of us who are playing the juggling game of a career AND a family, things become slightly more complicated.

My own personal rule for being a working mom: I am doing this FOR them. This is my mantra that I have to tell myself over and over when I am at my office wondering what my kids are up to. I am working hard to set an example for them, and show them that it is important to do things for yourself and for the ones you love the most. I tell my kids all the time, as I’m sure you all do as well, that they can do anything they set their minds to. I just have a harder time believing this as it relates to me and my career. But take a deep breath, Moms. You really CAN do anything you set your mind to.

Another idea to keep in mind: quality vs. quantity. Let me explain. I work 40 hours a week, 8:00am to 5:00pm. I am able to spend the evenings and weekends with my kids, along with vacation when I’m able to fit that in. So I am a big advocate for quality vs. quantity time when it comes to my kids. I may not be able to spend the amount of time I would like to at home, but I make sure that I am fully present when I am able to be with them. This means turning off my phone, avoiding distractions, and just enjoying the time I am able to spend with them. This makes everything even more special and creates more memories with them.

A big bottom line for those of us who are always trying to perfect the work-life balance: compromises will need to be made – and that is okay. Schedules can be so tricky, between school functions, games, concerts, and even dinner and bath times in the evenings. It will take some time for you and your family to figure out what works best for you. When you do, the flow of life is much simpler. Each family and each situation is different. Don’t try to compare yourselves to others, or let anyone else try to tell you how you should be doing things. You have to do what is best for YOU and for YOUR family.

You are setting a powerful example for your children. Never forget that. And make sure you take that time to silence your phone, put away the distractions, and have that much-needed quality time with your family.